Developmental psychologists have established that each of us has thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in adulthood of which we’re not yet consciously aware.
In fact, many of the biggest decisions we make in life, are made outside of our everyday conscious awareness.
Previously, I revealed the six most pivotal decisions people make earlier in their lives. Some of those decisions are quite surprising.
Children, adolescents, and people in young adulthood do much experimenting and undergo much cognitive development as they attempt to explore varied aspects of their inner psyche.
A young person can seem to have a particular personality one day, and then seem completely different the next day. This is a natural part of a young person’s process as they struggle to decide who they are, and what persona they will present to the world.
Though each culture has a slightly different developmental timeline, it remains true that as humans move more fully into adulthood, they are presented with an entirely new set of opportunities for potential growth and self-understanding.
Here, I share the 5 core choices that humans make:
- choice of whether or not to have kids
- one’s relationship with money
- one’s relationship with sexual energy
- one’s relationship with breath, movement, and body
- one’s search for invisible forces
1. Your Choice of Whether or Not to Have Kids
Life’s journey begins with our caretakers. As babies, our very lives depend moment-to-moment on the choices of others.
Parenting is unquestionably one of the hardest jobs in the world.
On one hand, a parent needs to set healthy boundaries and say “no” a lot; this helps a child to feel contained and safe in a chaotic world.
On the other hand, a parent also needs to be deeply interested in a child’s internal world, and demonstrate that interest by listening carefully and authentically to each of their children.